Often we have loved ones in our lives that would use us, or make their issues ours. Take heart we all face challenges and issue along our life path, and yes there are those who would despitefully use you, but God / SPIRIT does not intend that you suffer from abuse.

When you first begin your journey toward emotional wholeness, you may feel that you do not have all the answers. This is more common that you can imagine. However this is no reason to delay getting started on your path to wholeness.

Your path begins with a single step of determination not to be despitefully used. What does that mean? It means beginning to understand how you are being treated, by whom, and how you can establish successful boundaries. Now when I first started out, I was pretty much beaten down, so much so that my own friends did not even recognize the person I had become. Where once I was a vibrant, loving, caring person, I was now stressed out, depressed, and extremely anxious. That is no way for anyone to live their lives.

Understanding where you are now will help you to transition into a more positive state of being. There may be reasons that you allow others to insult you, treat you abusively, falsely accuse you, or threaten you. It may be that up until now you have been unaware of the reasons for your feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, or depression.

Begin to add value to yourself by finding ways to say no to the abuse. By doing this you are honoring yourself and God / SPIRIT. For it is written in Matthew 5:44 “I say to you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who despitefully use you and persecute you.”KJV

Take revolutionary action. The love spoken of by Jesus is the kind that is beneficial to both the abuser and yourself. It is not about having a “loving” feeling or apathy toward those who would use you, it is about doing the highest good ~creating boundaries. By creating boundaries you are making a statement that you have value and purpose, and you are sending a message to the other person that their actions are not loving or kind.

Your action can be simple and compelling. Of course I encourage you to weigh the course of your own actions, and seek professional help as needed. Each situation is unique and must be handled accordingly. Once you decide to take action you will begin to experience greater self confidence and self value. Taking action in wisdom creates a loving process as it sends a strong message to the person who is using you that you are no longer participating in that kind of reality. It also send as message to God / SPIRIT that you are ready to heal and move on in your life.

You are unique and special. You are loved by the Creator Source of All. Stepping out can take some courage and determination. Once you begin to take the emotional abuse out of your life, reclaim your personal space, and experience your own true Divine Nature, you will gain more and more self confidence. In that confidence you will be able to express your desire to have a peaceful and joyful emotional boundary. All else will simply pass through your energy field, be observed, and remain unabsorbed leaving you room to truly be who you are and navigate joyfully through life.

Path to success:

See if you can sit quietly for a while. Are you able to still your mind? Take a moment to see what kind of emotions you are experiencing when no one else is present. Is there a common thread that creates anxiousness? Take time everyday to review how far you have come in establishing boundaries and saying no to those who would despitefully use you. Create a space for confidence in yourself. Quiet your mind in realizing that you are unique and valuable to God / SPIRIT and yourself. 

Now if you are just starting out and unsure about how to implement subtle steps to experience and create your space of quiet self confidence, then follow my step-by-step system that allows you to develop both self esteem and your freedom for true emotional healing. To get started click the “sign up for Instant Access” button below.

Together we will take a look at what is going on for you and how you can embark on your road to wholeness, worthiness and acceptance, work with SPIRIT / God to shift your vibration and increase your feelings of inner peace. We will set up a step by step system to help you manage the feelings and emotions, increase your awareness on how to stay positive, and give you tools to create a better future. I look forward to serving you.

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DeannaDeanna Gloyd, Your Spiritual Mentor, founder of Transformational Coaching with Radiant Love©, a proven spiritual method that teaches you how to connect with SPIRIT / God in a way that will transform your life, create a closer relationship with SPIRIT / God, and increase your inner peace in a way that is authentic and sustainable.

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